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1. I wish you would not be afraid to mention my baby.
2. I wish that you could talk about my baby more than once. The truth is if you do, it reassures me that that you haven't forgotten and that you do care and understand.
3. I wish you wouldn't think that I don't want to talk about my baby.
4. I wish you wouldn't think that what happened is one bad memory for me. The truth is the memory of my baby, the love I feel, the dreams I had and the memories I have created for my baby are all loving memories. Yes there are bad memories too but please understand that it's not all like that.
5. I wish you wouldn't pretend that my baby never existed. The truth is we both know I had a baby growing inside me.
6. I wish you wouldn't judge me because I am not acting the way you think I should. The truth is grief is a very personal thing and we are all different people who deal with things differently.
7. I wish you wouldn't think that if I have a good day or if you see me smiling that I'm "over it". Also, if I have a bad day, I wish you wouldn't think that I am being unreasonable and that I need to get over it. The truth is there is no "normal" way for me to act.
8. I wish you wouldn't stay away from me. The truth is losing my baby doesn't mean I'm contagious. By staying away you make me feel isolated, confused and like it is my fault.
9. I wish you wouldn't expect my grief to be "over and done with" in a few weeks, months, or years for that matter. The truth is it may get easier with time but I will never be "over" the loss of my child.
10. I wish you wouldn't think that my baby wasn't really a baby and it was blood and tissue or a fetus. The truth is my baby was a human life. My baby had a soul, heart, body, legs, arms and a face. I have seen my baby's body and face. My baby was a real person.
11. My baby's due date, Mothers Day, celebration times, and the day I lost my baby are all important and sad days for me. The truth is I wish you could tell me by words or by letter you are thinking of me on these days.
12. I wish you understood that losing my baby has changed me. The truth is I am not the same person I was before and will never be that person again. If you keep waiting for me to get back to "normal" you will stay frustrated. I am a new person with new thoughts, dreams, beliefs, and values. Please try to get to know the real me-maybe you'll still like me.
13. I wish you wouldn't tell me I could have another baby. The truth is I want the baby I lost and no other child can replace this one. Babies aren't interchangeable. Besides, you do not know whether or not we have fertility problems.
14. I wish you wouldn't feel awkward or uncomfortable talking about my baby or being near me. When you do, I can see it. The truth is it's not fair to make me feel uncomfortable just because you are.
15. I wish you wouldn't think that you'll keep away because all my friends and family will be there for me. The truth is, everyone thinks the same thing and I am often left with no one.
16. I wish you would understand that right now it's hard for me to be around pregnant women or see little babies. Please be patient with me and try to understand.
17. I wish you wouldn't say that it's natures way of telling me something was wrong with my baby. The truth is my baby was perfect to me no matter what you think nature is saying.
18. I wish you would understand what you are really saying when you say "next time things will be okay". The truth is you can't predict the future and what will you say if it happens to me again
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